Vege day! November 28, 2009
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Umar always loves to help me in the kitchen..cooking is a good activity for kids to learn! never stop them from entering the kitchen or help us cooking, instead we should think creatively how we can get them to help while ensuring their safety:)
Umar cutting the old cucumber left in the fridge..he was using the secret recipe’s ‘cutter’. He discovered:
1. the name of the vege : cucumber (and cabbage too)
2. the texture of the cucumber
3. the feel (cold)
4. confidence (as he do adult work the way he wants to)
5. the taste of the vege
later after cooking and having lunch we surf on the net on vegetables. Umar learns on carrot, cabbage, capsicum besides cucumber.
while we are surfing I let him to hold the real vege at the same time so that he can relate.
we surf on:
1. how plants grow (on particular those veges), how the vege’s plants look like..
2. what are the nutrition content e.g. carrot vitamin A which is good for the eyes (we learns this from songs)
Umar asked me to cook carrot on the next day and have cabbage soup for the dinner:)
When I asked, “who made the vege?” umar answered” Allah!”
Always try to nurture the trust and the existance of Allah in our kids!
Pelvic floor exercise November 26, 2009
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I remember from my first pregnancy and labour in Australia, it was a special and precious experience ever in my life.
*our precious caliph..few hrs after birth*
Giving birth in the most comfortable room ever with Queen size bed and attached toilet with tub for water birth or for relaxation in the warm bath.
*could not find the Monash Medical Center (MMC), Melbourne birth suite. This one is the most similar I could find but the tub in MMC is in the bathroom*
The Queen size bed is provided for the father to have some rest while accompanying the wife. Birth process may take hours (theoretically every hr 1cm dilatation of the cervix) therefore fair enough for the father to have some rest while supporting the wife.
Just a brief overview of Australian birth facilities;)
One of the point emphasis during antenatal and post natal check up was pelvic floor exercise. The pregnancy and other associated condition such as constipation may weaken the muscle that holds the bladder, bowel and uterus in place.
But where is the muscle actually? Refer the picture below: (the muscles surrounding te three openings, urethra-opening from bladder, vagina-opening from the womb, rectum-opening from the bowel)
I’ve found that in Malaysia the midwife or the doctor rarely talk about this. Maybe in private setting is different and it is not a surprise if many Malaysian mother do not know what is it, the importance of it and how to do it.
This is an important exercise that can be done anwhere. It helps preventing incontinence (unable to control the urine flow) before giving birth and after labour. It also helps in the labour process and later in future in sexual relation with husband and prevent prolapse (uterus/womb dropped out from the vagina). All these sounds alarming but the good news is we can do something.
The youngest patient (in Malaysia) I have met to experience prolapse was a 30 years old lady. This poor lady need an equipment called ‘pessaries’ to be put in the vagina to help with her sexual relation and to get pregnant again.
*a diagram showing the uterus has prolapsed out of the wagina..it is very uncomfortable*
*the pessary ring was put in place, need to change every 3 months..very uncomfortable*
The exercise is quite difficult (because we are not sure that we apply to the right muscle) but by practice it can be done easily anywhere at anytime.
The simplest thing I practiced was by trying to hold during urination/ ‘weeing’ (some people hold the wind) and identify which muscle is contracted. Then I redo it and feels the same muscle contracted:)
From my personal experience, i feel like ‘squeeze and lift’ sensation. Initial trial I found that I actually hold my breath or pulling up my tummy which is not right. Other mistakes that may happen are tightening buttock or squeezing legs together.
A beginner may try this exercise while laying down then later in any position. Try to hold the muscle in 10 seconds and try 10 times in a row.
A good strong pelvic floor muscles helps during labour by shortening second stage of labour (this stage starts from full dilatation and expulsion of the baby), help to heal the wound caused by labour because of good circulation and more likely to have satisfying sex life.
Small things may make a big different..lets try the pelvic exercise for better future, biiznillah..!:)
I did tell, I did November 24, 2009
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I have finished this book a while ago. As described below, it is about a typical abuse case. In medical we usually refer it as ‘star case’ as a code to protect confidentiality. This case happens a lot in our real world including Malaysia.
It is a real story and I was attracted to read it as I want to find out how deep the parents words influence the child’s psychology and their attitude, why parents do it and how the kids affected by the evil experience in short and long term.
The description from the book:
Cassie couldn-t remember when the abuse began, but from an early age she knew that her life was different from other children. Her mother made it clear that she wasn-t wanted, she wasn-t loved and He said that he was her friend, that this was his way of showing her that she was special. With no one else to turn to, finally she found the courage to speak out, to tell her mother what he did to her. But her mother wouldn-t listen, and with horror, Cassie was to discover exactly who her abuser was, and why she would never be heard. I Did Tell, I Did is the incredible story of a girl who was betrayed by everyone who should have loved her, and how she overcame the pain to find happiness and love, and to learn how to live with her past.
I am grateful to Allah for His loves and rahmah..alhamdulillah and may Allah protect us from sinful deeds!
turning moment into oppurtunity November 23, 2009
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Optimism is synonymous with success. Every difficulty or even just an ordinary moment may be turned into an opportunity.
For example, Ms Lin was instructed to go for outstation for 4 days. She is a working mother who never been apart from her 2 young kids except for work. She found that it is hard to do it even for only 4 days.
Despite entertaining her misery, she has decided to turn it into an opportunity for her to read more on her current interest on online business and do some research on it since she does not has her daily routine with her kids. She ends up feeling occupied and went through the day with satisfaction and great outcome.
On the daily routine, a mother may change a boring routine into an interesting opportunity for her kids to learn. For example, the bath time. It is actually one of the most precious learning time. By being more creative for every different bath, it will make it a learning opportunity.
E.g. Experiment with water, why bottle float? why we cant breath in water etc. This may also be the stimulating step for further internet or encyclopedia exploration on the brought up point during bathtime.
what we need is some creativity and positive thinking!biiznillah..
time with ayah November 22, 2009
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ayah usually is a busy man..since we have the opportunity to be together in JB thus ayah took the opportunity to spend time and read with umar ..
umar enjoying the session and surprisingly he reads better with ayah..hehe
now, he demands for more books ..alhamdulillah!
keeping up creativity and imagination November 21, 2009
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Choosing the right toys for our child is important. At this age, umar has a lot of imaginations and he links his ideas with what he observed or experienced.
I found out that this ‘educational toy’ is perfect for umar and surprisingly he can keep exploring it for hours.
He will build something and later he’ll explain to us what is he making.
The way he explores it was impressing. he spent some times to observe first while ayah make a demo, later he asked the function of the tools provided to build the intelligent blocks into anything he likes.
I prefer this kind of tool for my son as he not only improve his imagination and creativity but also his motor skills and thinking skills as he would explain each and everything he builds after he completed one.
*with some help and guidance from ayah..it strengthen parents-child bonding as well*
Alhamdulillah!bravo son.
Child learns while playing..let them play and guide them!
Johor Bahru (JB) November 13, 2009
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Working while being with my beloved hubby and son in JB is heaven..
I’m enjoying the experience very much..I am happy and grateful..(alhamdulillah) for this opportunity..
*Beloved Umar in the pool..he learns swimming and some science knowledge on water*
really enjoy their accompany!
hari-hari dalam hidupku November 13, 2009
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This real life story of a muslimah really inspire me..it shows the real meaning of ‘pergantungan kepada Allah’ the Almighty..
This is the most important component in life that will ensure success in this world and there after.
It is true that in this life we have a lot of targets and ambitions to achieve, but if we don’t have this principal, we’ll be like a robot which function only to work and nothing else.This is when a human may forget their main purpose in life and why are we here in this world.
While reading this book I tried to implement the situation with modification to my life’s situation and i pray hard that i’ll always be grateful and seek Allah’s blessings in whatever i do instead of human preference..it is a superb motivational and eye opener book for me..anything that can remind me to the Almighty Allah and to be grateful would be superb for me..Alhamdulillah..
Read and comprehend it!biiznillah..
p/s: revising the ‘tarbiyatul aulad’..:)
Outstation for two weeks November 10, 2009
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Away to JB for 2 weeks ..with dearest family for formal occasion..will update later!
handle with care November 8, 2009
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My brain is craving for good books. I really wanna revise the ‘tarbiyatul aulad’ by Dr Abdullah Naseh Ulwan. I’ve read both ‘jilids’ before but I dont have my own copy. I borrowed them from a friend. Really wish to revise the second jilid coz I can barely remember the content.
Meanwhile, I have finished reading this book by a good author Jodi Picoult last month. So a brief review from me.
Synopsis:
Handle With Care explores the knotty tangle of medical ethics and personal morality. When faced with the reality of a fetus who will be disabled, at which point should an OB counsel termination? Should a parent have the right to make that choice? How disabled is TOO disabled? And as a parent, how far would you go to take care of someone you love? Would you alienate the rest of your family? Would you be willing to lie to your friends, to your spouse, to a court? And perhaps most difficult of all – would you admit to yourself that you might not actually be lying?
why do I like this book and other books by this author:
1. my medical background attract me to read this book on ostegenesis imperfecta (a very rare congenital bone disease)
2. mother instinct- this story make me feel more grateful for a healthy child and respect those who has special kids
3. a superb story line which blends the law and ethics – commonly happen in my real life
4. see life in different perspective and from different angle
happy reading..
cutiecaliph
